No. 15: Hating Your Self.

You don’t believe it?

You will be amazed at how much people hate themselves. 

People hate that they are not lighter in complexion. 

Others hate their belly, their height, their hair, and the so on.

Some people also hate their family background, their parents, and their upbringing.

The effect of this on their career and life is that they will have low self-esteem, and constantly seek validation from people, and are constantly obsessed about how better their life would be if the body part or aspect of their life that they don’t like wasn’t the way it was.

Poor family environment and poor social environment are usually responsible for people hating themselves. 

The family is the first point of socialization and usually, the most impactful, followed by social environments like school, peer group, and religious groups. When either of this is poor, the effect on the individual can be very negative.

If you find yourself always refusing help, having a defeatist mentality, indulging in self-isolation, slouching, having addictive tendencies, or experiencing excessive depression and anxiety, you probably hate yourself.

If you notice this about yourself, you need to identify the triggers; explore your core beliefs and reframe them; commit to self-love and self-care; practise positive self-talk, and spend time in places and with people who make you happy