No. 17: LOSING TOUCH WITH FRIENDS


Jobs are temporary.

Most colleagues, line managers and subordinates are temporary, and more often than not, are very competitive.

Jobs, colleagues, line managers and subordinates are more often than not, after the value they can get from you.

Jobs want you to add to their bottom line, which is why you were engaged in the first place.

Colleagues want to ensure that they are at least at par with you from a remuneration, position and recognition point of view.

Line managers want you to make them shine.

Subordinates want to learn from you, and eventually compete for your role.

But friends, true friends, only want to see you shine, see you succeed, see you achieve potential, and do not mind being inconvenienced to help you when you need moral, financial, emotional and physical support. 

True friends may be doing better or worse off than you, but it is irrelevant to them. They are just happy to be your friend. 

When the hurly burly is done, and the battle of career is won and lost, the only people you can count on to always have your back would be your true friends, that is if you have not lost touch with them. 

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