No. 21: Putting someone else in charge of your happiness.

It really is sad when someone else is in charge of your happiness.

For many people, different things are responsible for their happiness.

For some, it is their job or boss. For others, it is their spouse. 

For yet others, it is their societal standing or social equity.

The problem with all of these things is that they are usually not within your control.

Jobs come and go, or you leave them if the circumstances are no longer ideal. Spouses always have personal aspirations too, which you may not be able to influence.

Society and social equity are fickle. You cannot control it.

To be truly happy, in and out of season, it is best that one lives a principle – centred life. This principle thus becomes the constant that holds everything together.

Your principles are your guiding compass. They moderate your actions, your worldview, your perceptions, as well as how you respond to how your career pans out, how your spouse evolves, how your societal perceptions and social equity turn out.

If you allow any external factor or person to be responsible for your happiness, your career and life would surely be filled with avoidable pendulous emotional reactions.