No.10: Keeping toxic people in your life


According to Dr. Nancy Irwin, a Doctor of Psychology from Malibu, a toxic person is anyone who is abusive, unsupportive, or unhealthy emotionally—someone who basically brings you down more than up.

Toxic people are everywhere, and are disguised as your best friend, family member, or partner.

One way to tell you have a toxic person in your life is that every time you encounter or hang out with them, text them, call them on the phone, or even when you are about to see them, you tend to be more tense, angry, anxious, exhausted, emotionally drained, and negative.

There’s always something with this person.

If the person is constantly judgmental, obsessively needy, and/or refuses to take responsibility or apologize for their actions, they definitely are toxic.

Toxic people receive pleasure from taking joy away from the things we once loved, such as work, friendships, hobbies, and even our love for ourselves.”

They also, create chaos through negative habits: using, lying, stealing, controlling, criticizing, bullying, manipulating, creating drama, etc.”

Toxic people manipulate you by always playing the blame game (they never take responsibility for their inadequacies) they isolate you from everybody else, and you find out you are always walking on eggshells around them (constantly trying not to upset them)

At the end of the day, you begin to doubt your abilities and competence.

So, what is the solution? Set up boundaries. Whether they are colleagues, friends, family members or partners, you need to set up boundaries that decide the point beyond which they cannot go with you.

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