No.7: Burning Bridges.



You will always be offended.

Just remember, there are three perspectives:

Yours, theirs, and the third alternative – which is usually the most objective and unbiased.

However unfair you think management may be regarding you, it doesn’t matter. Life goes on.

Were you unfairly managed at your office, promotions, abroad training passed over you, salary not increased for an inexplicable long stretch – then you get a very much improved offer elsewhere. Don’t end relations with your now-former office. 

You do not know what the future holds.

You have an overbearing boss who seems very critical of everybody's work. Then you get an improved offer elsewhere, and you disrespect this boss – after all, you are leaving.

Good Job!

One year later, management announces the appointment of a new COO. 

Guess who? 

That Boss!

Bottom line, whatever happens, professional career is a revolving wheel where ex-colleagues at one point or the other may be re-united, usually in different capacities; where ex-colleagues become service providers or agencies to their ex-colleagues; where subordinates head new units and their ex - line managers become their service provider.

Burning Bridges simply is not a smart move, and would hurt your career and your life.

Don't forget to join me tomorrow for No.8

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