In a digital-driven world where perception is influenced by social media trends and influencers, and where decisions and opinion even at a corporate level are driven by what the trend is on social media, it is easy for you to worry so much about what others think – to desire validation. While getting validation is not a bad thing on its own, worrying so much about it so that it seems that all your action and the satisfaction you derive is based on the validation you get from other people, colleagues, your spouse, your siblings, your followers on social media, and your friends is negative. Worrying so much about what others think about you and what you do takes objectivity out of your actions and decisions, because other than worrying about empirically measurable set objectives, you become subjective and worry instead about how someone or people would feel about A validation seeking mind is an emotion clouded one, and an emotion clouded mind is not a successful career ...
By Idiare Atimomo I’m a Game Of Thrones fanatic. There I admit it. Episode 9 of Season 6 was primal in the emotions it elicited from many viewers. I watched it after work in the office with my colleagues. In one of the most gripping scenes ever (apparently filmed over 10 hours) Jon Snow was pummeling Ramsay Bolton’s face in an armada of face jabs — our reaction watching this scene had 7 men howling and screaming rabidly egging him on, literally baying for his blood. I digress, it was a kick ass episode. Viewed from the prism of strategy though, I have been asking myself who was a better strategist between both men. In my mind, Ramsay came out tops. I have always believed that the heart and success of strategy is a person’s understanding of human nature. Not a fixation with shiny new models of thought/thinking but the clear eyed understanding of human nature . This clear eyed understanding of what motivates people to act or not act, to fight or flee, to be loyal or t...
What’s the point? Except you are a sadist, you most likely won’t feel good when you treat people badly. And the badly treated party won’t feel good about you or the experience either. Coupled with the fact that as humans, when given the opportunity, we love to serve the revenge meal really chilled, you probably would get it worse the moment the badly treated party has the opportunity to pay you back in your coin. You may hide under the guise or excuse of morality, ethical stand, discipline, proactivity or exemplary leadership to treat people badly. You may be doing all these and not know you have treated, or are treating people badly, but it changes nothing nonetheless. The first characteristic of humanity is imperfection. We make mistakes as effortlessly as we breathe. But, guess what the constant thing about life and humans is…yes you guessed right...change. Humans may make errors, but even more importantly, humans can also change…and for the better too...
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